These are my answers to the question: “What do you want to make happen in yourself?”
Out of all the flavors of experience these are the 28 I value most.
They are not actions for my ego or achievements for my identity, but more like specific kinds of “essences” that I want to extract from the things I do and what happens to me.
If the mind can make a hell out of heaven or a heaven from hell, these are the things I want my mind to make – no matter what events occur.
My choice of action follows from these values. “What creates more of what I want in the world, for all the people involved in this situation?”
I have been terrified to pursue many of these things. Modern society tells me not to value them. Some cultures would say that in valuing these types of experiences, which may seem to oppose competition and domination, I’m not being a real man.
What I value is not found on the surface of objects, and no superficial appearance can provide these things to me.
My values may not be common in modern America. What matters to me most is not material, and I cannot purchase these things or own them.
These values may not be what society expects from a male. These values may not be what society expects from an American.
I am now okay with all that stuff. I can be a “black sheep” or a “disappointment” to others without being one to myself. I am okay with however a society or culture or group of people may react to what I choose to be in the world.
A sense of peace and certainty now accompanies the feeling that my mind has found a harmony with my soul. That peace is relatively new.
It took a feeling of anxious rebellion to break free of cultural boundaries, and a lot of wandering through unmapped emotional territory to arrive at this feeling of “okay, this is who I am.”
I pursue the creation of these living values in myself and others.
I choose to let others accept me or reject me based on who I am.
The responsibility to share my heart and mind and soul lies with me.
I will fully manifest what is within the core of my being and express this truth to the limit of my abilities.
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